I’m sure you’ve heard the term “holding space”. It is an oft used and not always fully understood term. In truth it is a term that, for me, refers to presence. Whatever it means to you, I encourage you to read this. It is a nicely written piece on holding space that adds dimension and includes some tips for holding space for others. It is a non-interference kind of thing. The article is clearly helpful in understanding this concept.
What occurred to me in the hours after I read it was that many of us who are awake (a bit more about that here), are indeed holding space for our country and our planet. Many of us feel, deeply, that we should be “doing something” in the face of so much change, much of which is painful to watch or to know about. However, each of us has a different way of engaging this shift for ourselves and it is important that we honor – rather than self-judge – what we are choosing to be in the midst of it all.
Each of us has a different purpose and we are here to live that purpose. For some, leading or participating in small or large protests, creating organizations which stand FOR human rights, freedom, earth-loving and honoring and so on; have and are living their purpose. They inspire us to engage. And we can do that in many ways. We do not all have to march, or send copious amounts of money in order to be engaged in support of their efforts. It is in our BE-ing that we make the greatest contributions to the healing of our society and planet.
Some of us tend to our corner of the earth by tending to the health and well-being of our children, grandchildren, animals, plants, etc., etc. By expressing our love, we are contributing to the collective in a profoundly important way. Some of us write. Some of us sing and dance. Some of us paint, take photographs or serve on other ways within our communities. Some of us care for our families in whatever ways are called for in this moment. Each of us makes a contribution.
What many may not see is that what is happening now has actually been unfolding for a very long time. What is happening in our world and our country has been underway and it did not begin with the recent election in the US or the Administrations of the recent past. The explosion of social media and the constant expressions of fear and scarcity therein are creating enormous fear and retrenchment on the part of many people who are quite simply terrified and cannot even think about what may be possible, as it all seems potentially apocalyptic.
I recently came across something that R. Buckminster Fuller apparently said in the late 1970s; and was paraphrased by Lynne Twist in her book, “The Soul of Money: Reclaiming The Wealth of Our Inner Resources (2003)*. I feel it underscores the condition that we now find ourselves in and why it is so very important that we awaken so that we can effectively, wholeheartedly and honestly hold space for the dying of some beliefs, structures and systems, so that the pains of our present can give birth to a new paradigm. I am offering below the paragraphs from the book in which Lynne Twist describes what she heard when Fuller described his vision of a you-and-me world (rather than a you-or-me world).
“It was in the late 1970s when I heard Buckminster Fuller describe his vision of a you-and-me world, a world where we all know and live the truth that there is enough for everyone, with no one left out. At that time, it was already a realistic expectation because, as he pointed out, there really was enough food in the world, enough resources, to take care of everyone. The challenge, he said, was that all our structures and systems – politics, government, health care, education, economics, and especially our money system – had been designed around scarcity, around the belief that there wasn’t enough for everyone and that someone would be left out.
Bucky predicted it could take twenty-five to fifty years for those now inaccurate systems and structures built on the belief in scarcity – a you-or-me world paradigm – to crumble. He warned that it might be upsetting confusing, even cataclysmic, but that when the transformation take place, a new world will have been born: a world in which we treasure that there is enough, steward it wisely and live in a context of sufficiency and prosperity for all – a paradigm of you-and-me.”
Interestingly, his prediction of twenty-five to fifty years lands pretty close (give or take a few years) to what is known in astrological circles as the Pluto return of the US.
This is a time of GREAT possibility, if that is how you choose to view it. It has taken me some time to find my way to believing and living into possibility, rather than feeling that I must withdraw, and just let it all fall apart.
“Sometimes when things are falling apart, they may actually be falling into place.”
Take heart, my friends. We have all chosen to be here now. We all have something to offer to this important evolutionary process. It is not a matter of how large or small our contribution. It is a simple matter of offering the best of who we are from where we are in the best way possible – right here, right now.
“We think that the point is to pass the test or overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don’t really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. It’s just like that. The healing comes from letting there be room for all this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy.”
– Pema Chodron
*The March 2017 release of this book is entitled: The Soul of Money; Transforming Your Relationship With Money and Life, and features a Foreword by Jack Canfield. There is GREAT wisdom and understanding in this book and I highly recommend it for reading and future reference.