Shame loves perfectionists –  It’s so easy to keep us quiet.

–  Brene Brown

Ah…the myth of perfection. How many of you are recovering perfectionists – or perhaps are still practicing perfectionists?

Perfection keeps us striving…and never arriving. Even the universe isn’t perfect. It evolves and changes as we do. Wait a minute…if we are stuck, not changing, making different choices and we are continuing to strive for perfection, what are we contributing to the collective, to the whole of existence, to the evolution of the species and the universe?

Things that make you go hmmm…

Brene Brown’s quote above offers us a moment to reflect on the places in our lives where we might still be striving to be perfect. Is it our work? Is it in our expressions of love for others? Is it in our beliefs? (Are there really any perfect beliefs???) Are we still striving for the perfect body, appearance, clothes?

It’s exhausting to even think about.

There is so much more to this topic than I wish to get to here. However, isn’t it worth some time and energy to examine the places in our lives where we are still striving to be perfect? The lost time, energy and, let’s not forget the relationships, are worth considering, don’t you think?

The pursuit of perfection often impedes improvement.
– George Will




6 thoughts on “perfection

  • Somewhere in my journey, I learned how to “satisfice.” There were simply too many pressing responsibilities. I had to learn how to complete each one on time and let it go when it was “good enough” so I could tackle the next. I’ve never been good at multi-tasking – perhaps that is actually a gift. One by one things got done, along with some funny stories about things that weren’t perfect and probably never would have been any way. 🙂

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    • Carol, getting to a place where “good enough” is enough is a very good thing. I struggled for a long time with perfection. The roots of that belief were deep, having been planted early and could very well have been in part, what I brought with me this time. “Good enough”, to me, is tied inextricably to personal worthiness. Realizing I was worthy, “good enough” arrived with wings and I was on my way! 🙂

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  • When we realize that perfectionism is a creation of the mind … and is related to feeling insecure …. then we can begin to overcome it. It’s not easy though, as ego decides its much better to try to be perfect!
    Thank you for sharing this Carrie 💛

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  • Wonderful Carrie! I spent so many years in my youth chasing perfection in all areas of my life. Such a waste! I was so busy striving that I forgot about simply being, simply living.


    • Thank you, Anita. I did the same thing myself. I believe there are more of us who did than didn’t. And gratefully, we see how fruitless it is and just how much we add to our own misery. Waking up and living peacefully is the gift. 🙂


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