let go or…

We are in the midst of many special days. Hanukkah is behind us; the Winter Solstice is in front of us, as is Christmas, Kwanzaa and the New Year. Many of us are reflecting on the past year and thinking about our word or phrase for the new year.

For 2018, the theme for me was informed by a Zen proverb:

Seems easy enough, right?

On December 31, 2017, I wrote about the challenges of letting goΒ  as I embarked on holding this phrase as a reminder of my often unconscious holding on to thoughts, ideas and perspectives that I am often unaware are quite literally blocks to what may be attempting to come into my life and experience. Did you see what I did there? Holding onto the phrase as a reminder. It was easier to hold a phrase that was positively supportive so I could let go and allow.

As a recovering over thinker, over planner; having needed to be in control in the earlier years of my life as a manager, leader, executive and parent, this has been an important year in lessons about getting out of my way. In addition, I feel that I can more easily see, in reflection, the gifts inherent in the challenges that I have faced…this year and in years past.

As I continue to reflect on the many events of this past year, I’m seeing more and more just how each one served to lead me to the next, to the next and the next event, idea or change. As a result, I’m delighted to say that I will be returning to my beloved mountains in the first quarter of 2019. Who knew that the stressful evacuation from a hurricane, would reveal my next home? It was an important step in a year of healing many aspects of my life, past and present.

I offer all of this to remind us all that there is great power in letting go and allowing life to lead. We are better leaders of our lives, when we get out of our own way. Our thoughts are probably the biggest derail-ers of our happiness and joy.

All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on.

Β – Havelock Ellis


I wish you all a quiet period for reflecting as you navigate and enjoy these holidays.




9 thoughts on “let go or…

  • I fully agree with you, Carrie. Being in control is an illusion we tend to fall for, particularly in life’s early years. I am also practicing letting go and letting life lead…but it is not as easy as it sounds πŸ™‚ I wish you lots of blessings in the new year.


    • Thank you, Helen. I wish you many blessings as well! Yes, the challenge of letting go and allowing ourselves to be lead is a process. I sure know that! I have certainly not perfected the art of letting go and the need to feel that I’m in control…of myself. However, my awareness of this habit helps me move away from the frustration that comes when I attempt to hold on, a bit more quickly. πŸ˜Šβ€‹

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  • I am an overthinker and overplanner, too, although how far I might be recovered from that remains to be seen. Probably not as much as I’d like even though I know that ultimately, I am not in control over much of anything. Thank you for this post. It was a good reminder to me to continue practicing letting go (which was my phrase a few years back). I love that Zen proverb. I’d never heard it before. Lots of truth to that.

    Blessings for the new year, Carrie. ❀


    • Thank you, Robin. I wish you many blessings as well. I’m not sure this over thinking or over planning and need to feel in control is something we recover from as much as we become more aware of it, which is healing in itself. I’m a work in progress, as I evolve. So, I’m human and I do the very best that I can. Don’t we all? πŸ˜Šβ€‹

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